standing for me

[Ahoy]

Okay -- forgot to ask my question. How much should a 14-year-old be told. I think she deserves a soft version of the truth because she already has suspicions that are driving her nuts. And she needs to understand that H has moved on and we are not getting back together.

I would like him to say, "I have been unhappy since January, and I am seeing someone else to see if I might be happier. It doesn't change how I feel about you, or my love for you."

If he insist on dating against her wishes, I think he should say, "I know you've stated that you're not ready to see me dating right now, but this is an important part of my personal growth, and I'll make sure that it doesn't affect you."

Of course, I have no control over what he does or doesn't say. I'm just wondering, what is appropriate? Need advice!

Also, H said that if D14 asked me questions about his situation, I should defer her to him to ask him directly. That's fine, except I know he'll be lying to her. Sigh.