Hi Ahoy! Good for you! I truly think this DB process can be a way for you to keep your dignity through the experience of separation. Sometimes going through the process we end up realizing that we are better off without the WAS. Perhaps we work hard and do the best we can and yet the WAS still isn't interested. No matter what it isn't a failure. You tried, you looked inside, and if you can't stay married then you can't.
I think it is admirable that you are standing up for yourself and doing what you think is best for your own happiness and sanity. And you are right, the legal piece of paper is not what is important. You can always reunite without it, or not.
Good luck and I hope the happy feelings continue! Life is full of possibilities!
