No Jefe, she is not going to own her words. In fact, she told you she is not going to own her words so stop expecting her to own it.
The good news is if/when you completely reconcile...she will own it. In fact, she will probably have shame over her behavior. But let her come to this on her own.
Forming a new conscience for her isn't your job.
Your immediate focus should be paying attention to when and how she opens the door for more intimacy.
Calling you is great. In fact it is wonderful. Talking is how we connect and bond with people. It allows immediate interaction and intimacy. I absolutely think it is a great sign she choose calling over texting.
She has given you permission to call her.
I assume you are going to the Fall Festival as a family tomorrow. Are you picking her up or is she coming to you? If you are picking her up then call and ask if she needs anything. The important thing to remember is your next contact should be a phone call not a text.
If you text then you just slapped down her gesture for more intimacy.
Tomorrow pay close attention to everything she does and mirror it back. If she kind of nudges you while walking, nudge her back and then gingerly reach for her hand. Pay attention to her body language. Detaching is good but in the proper context. Women hurt easily when they feel rejected. And your wife lashes.
If your wife gives you permission for intimacy pay attention to how much intimacy. It may only be playfulness. It could be holding her hand. It might be a hug. She will set limits. But do not mistake responding to her nonverbal ques as pursuing. It is courting. And unless you actively court your wife you will not have a wife.
But if she suddenly appears agitated don't get angry--pay attention to what may have agitated her. Is there a playful couple laughing and joking next to you? Then point to them and whisper, "That will be us again. I promise" and then turn to your daughters and say, "Did I ever tell you about the first Halloween party your mommy and I went to?" (or something like this)
This will reassure her that you have a future, shared a past, have a family, but more important it will change her focus to something more pleasant.
