Ok, fellow DBers... I need to know how to handle this at my daughters party tomorrow:

If asked directly if there is OW, what should I say? My pastor says I cannot lie and I understand that but from a DBing standpoint I want to keep my odds of reconciling as high as possible and I understand to do that I possibly need to keep this quiet. I find myself wrestling with the right thing to do vs the smart thing to do.

As much as I would like to keep off this topic tomorrow, I can't. This is both our families and too many people already know about the D to keep the rest in the dark. MOST those that know of the D do not know about OW, I sort of danced my way around the truth to appease them but I can't do that anymore and claim to be a Christian who does not lie.

HELP!! All opinions welcome...

Me- 40 H- 41
S8, D5, S4
M 19 y T 23
Bomb drop 6/2013
H asked for/filed for D 9/2014
22 yo OW discovered 9/19/14 they're engaged and living together