Wife in denied but ongoing affair, what to do???

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I got home a few minutes before she did with the boys. Talk was small at first but as she started dinner I asked if she wanted a beer. At first she did not, but talked herself into one. So I got one for her and myself. We talked small talk about our day during dinner. She said her coworkers were going to a bar tonight since they didn't last night. I told her I didn't have plans and that she should go.

We talked small talk in the living room later and told W my brother was having people over to watch the Aggies beat the hell outta 'bama. She had plans with her mom in the morning but thought she'd be done about 2:30, so she said she'd go along and we'll take the boys. We shall see.

So, now W is out and I'm catching up on this stuff. As she left I can admit the trust burn in the gut was acting up, but I sucked it up and told her to be safe and have a good time. Give her space, she's going to do what she's going to do.

Tonight she did stay to put the kids in bed before leaving, which she didn't do the last several times she went out with coworkers (which we all know now was basically code for the A). Maybe my leading by example will pay off. I guess we'll find out if she gets home at 11:30 or 2:30 as before. She has sent me a couple minor texts since she's been out. I've replied with minor replies.

I'm going to do push-ups, sit-ups, and the like to burn some nervous energy. I'm glad I did what I did last night but it doesn't really change anything. I still can't believe a word she says and I guess I keep working on detach, GAL, etc. until one day she maybe decides to set things right. If not, well I'm not afraid of divorce like I was 6 weeks ago.

Since Wednesday I have found I'd like to have her removed from all my family pictures. I see her in them and it makes me sick when I think of what she is actually capable of and then shows no visible remorse. I guess that will pass, or not, but I'll survive.