I must speak up for I strongly disagree with Young at Heart.
Why would it be okay for Jay to accept the notion that the MIL needs to figure out what to do with her daughter's lover when it is not a "lover" in the sense that she is W's significant other?
This woman is the OW! Not a partner, lover, or SO. It is an affair partner.
YAT....I don't get why you keep referring this woman as W's "lesbian lover" as if that's the acceptable thing??! This is the AP. No ambiguity about this!!
Why do you say that W is "coming out"??! I've stated here many, many times that I've seen women go out with other women which DOES NOT necessarily mean they're lesbians. In fact, many of them do get married to men or return to their husbands. A one-time dalliance with a woman does not mean that a woman is a lesbian.
This is an AFFAIR. Period. So Jay's situation needs to be treated as such...Divorce Busting!!!
For the record, Young at Heart, I am a gay woman here. Just so you know that I know what I am talking about here and am fully aware of PFLAG.
