Fresh separation - trying to play by the book

[Mozza]

I picked up the kids tonight and asked D6 what she had learnt in school this week. She replied: "I learned something funny with mommy: OM* can't come too often to her apartment!" I couldn't help asking if he had come over this week (forgive me!) and, yes, she saw him one evening, sitting on the couch, as she was going to bed (8 pm).

*Presumed OM. No evidence yet.

I'm accepting of an OM simply because I have no choice. I'm uncomfortable with the potential lies from my W (she said she wanted to be alone when she left me, but this guy was already around), but it seems typical and I assume that she's afraid of seeing my reaction if she tells me. If she has an OM, she probably hides him to spare me. I think I would prefer to know because at least then I could be informed if they break up!

This OM is actually one of the best case scenarios: I don't think they'd have a future together so it might be a way for her to be disappointed quickly and see what we have.

Just to clarify, again: I never mention OM not even his name in a different context. She used to mention his help, but she stopped a few weeks ago. Our communications are limited anyway. Just saying that I'm also playing this one by the book, even if it's difficult...

On the GAL front, I'm taking the kids to my parents for the week-end. We'll have some cool family time that I expect everyone to enjoy. We'll buy the Halloween costumes.