My wife of 9 years (together for 19) had an affair with a co-worker in September of 2012. Things had seemed good in our relationship leading up to this discovery - in fact, her last text message to me before I found out was "I love you so much, can't wait to see you." When I found out, she left home and never came back. She filed for divorce in Sept 2013 and sometime before that she moved in with her affair partner. I have a long thread written during that time in the midlife crisis board.
Yesterday I found out they are getting married.
After all of the hard work I've done to try and detach and build a new life, I didn't think it would hit me so hard. But if I'm honest with myself, I'm devastated. I spent last night alternating between crying and tossing and turning. It brought back all of the feelings of being tossed out like garbage, replaced by some new shiny thing (despite the fact hat he is 10 years her senior).
I know I shouldn't care what happens to them - especially since we didn't have kids (but her affair partner does), but I really wish it didn't work out for them. I wish that I was the one getting remarried while she paid some kind of price for what she did. It feels so unjust.
Me:40 EX-WAW:39 M:9 T:19, No Kids EA/PA with co-worker started: 9/24/12 - ongoing ILYBINILWY, S:9/25/12 MC 9/12-12/12 D: 9/13/13 EX-WAW and affair partner marrying 10/17/14
