So here is is mid afternoon and I have to wonder what is the difference between DBusting and accepting a divorce? I mean my friends think I am now accepting that he has left me for OW. That is true in a way. I know the odds are long but I am not bolting the door on my marriage exactly. I mean if I lovingly detach, go dark and GAL is that giving up? Many people would see it that way.
I mean to an outsider the only real difference is that you are not dating. Because of religious reasons and the 12 month separation requirement in this state nobody really knows I am trying to bust the divorce. Am I a DBer or a giver upper?
M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters BD: 5/14 Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW D Final 9/17
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” ― Maya Angelou
