HUGS...believe me, I know how pissed, disappointed and confused you feel right now.
It may not be much of a comfort to hear this...BUT....remember that our Hs have the ability (unfortunately) to be inappropriate EVEN when they know that what they are doing is exactly what we DON'T want them to do.
Wolfie's contacting his ff is probably NO big deal to him. He obviously sees her as someone he can talk to and although HE KNOWS any secret freindship with her would be totally unacceptable to you, he persues it anyway because in HIS mind it's a harmless friendship that YOU just don't understand and will think he's doing something BAD when to him he's just bullshitting with someone that happens to be female.
He's right to feel ashamed, he was an Ahole for lying about it and sending your trust for him screeching backwards.
Men are such dolts. But I tend to think it was stupid, but harmless. T2
