Nope. We don't know each other but your wife isn't very different than many of the women who come to the counseling center.
As a note, I didn't tell you to send her flowers. I used flowers as an example of the difference between romance and pursuit. Bringing a woman flowers is pursuit but making the effort to learn what that woman's favorite flower is...well..that is romance.
Pursuit is about getting what you want. Pursuit is a means to an end. Pursuit can be impatient and desperate. Pursuit can get angry when it doesn't have immediate results. Pursuit usually has an expectation.
Romance is selfless. Romance doesn't have any expectations. Romance is patient and tolerant.
Romance doesn't benefit you it benefits the person you are romancing. When you romance someone your goal is to make the person you are romancing feel loved, valued and cherished whether you gain or not.
Romancing your wife would not be counterproductive to the DB/DR principles because you are becoming the husband that any wife would be crazy to divorce.
