Oh, Tal, I believe you were sweet. This is HIS baggage! That's why he needs kid gloves.
Ever meet a skittish cat? One who has absolutely NO reason not to like or trust you? But they back off when you want to stroke them? Just think of Wolfie as a grown up version of that. Someone long before you made him fear this, Talitsa.
Don't take this personally! He's not out to hurt you, woman! He's just a skittish cat who is afraid. That's why I recommended you setting some goals to get him to open up to you.
You'll find a method to keep repeating this mantra to him until he feels comfy enough to start the ball rolling.
I agree with you 100%! I hate hearing anything other than the truth! I especially hate the caveat "but I didn't want to hurt you by being honest". Well, let me decide how to get over my hurt--now I have 2 hurts to work on, you bloody fool!
Whew.. okay, getting off the podium now so I can hand it over to you. I just don't want you to see this as something you are doing or not doing that is causing him to react this way. Just see him as a human with a hangup that is still in his suitcase that he's still carrying until he figures out he can dump it somewhere...
Hugs,
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
