Moving towards mediation, need to stop limbo

[shodan]

Ok, here is a potentially good update....

I was out of town for the past three days and my W texted/called a few times. I did not respond except to one with "ok." I got home last night in time to see my kids before bedtime. When they left our bedroom, as I was changing (I was in my underwear) my wife came up to me, hugged me, and said "I missed you." This is the FIRST time that my W has initiated any contact with me except for laying on me from time to time in bed. I somewhat hugged her back and just said "ok."

In the middle of the night, her phone rang downstairs. She did not hear it and I did not pick it up. This morning, I came downstairs and looked at her phone. It showed that a specific # had called her a few times. The number was the # for the OM, which she previously had stored in her phone as a specific name. Therefore, she must have deleted it from her phone or else it would have shown up as the name as a missed call, not 917-XXX-XXXX.

Then, when I came upstairs, my W said "It was good that we had this time apart." I asked why. She then said she was going to call me to apologize for everything but she could tell that I was not in the mood to hear it (I guess not replying to her texts gave that impression). Then she said this week was really hard and she had a nervous breakdown. I then said "well, maybe you hit rock bottom" to which she just somewhat nodded her head.

net-net...she has not confessed to the A and clearly has not fully broken it off with him since she has her same phone #. But, this appears to be moving in the right direction.

Question for everyone....should I show some warmth or just stay detached for now? I am not sure my W will ever fully confess...she would be too stubborn/ashamed.