Card, my H has always wanted perfection. He didn't get it of course, because I'm not perfect. ;-) But he wanted me to look a certain way, wanted our house to look like no one lives in it, wanted a lot of things that I couldn't make happen. In one of our MC sessions back in June, he actually brought up the fact that I didn't put raw onions in a potato salad I had made the weekend before. I've been making potato salad for 27 years without onions. On this occasion, the fact that I didn't include them became a character flaw worthy of a discussion in MC. But that sort of thing isn't new, that's life with H. Maybe other women's H's will come out of the fog and be nice, but mine probably won't.
