Just catching up on your last couple of posts and a couple of observations if you don't mind.

you're going to need to let the resentment go (easier said than done I know). A few times you've mentioned sarcastically that you were 'never there for her' and it seems to bother you. It feels a little like youre still keeping score.

My W says I was never there for her and I felt that was really unfair because I did lots for her. But I didn't emotionally support her and although I knew she could talk to me - she didn't. I held onto resentment that I wasn't getting enough credit and then wasn't listening to what she was trying to tell me especially when what she was saying was that my sarcasm was upsetting her.

So I suppose I'm trying to say do things because its being a better you and try not care whether you're getting the credit.

'Its amazing what you can accomplish if you do not care who gets the credit' Truman


Both mid 30s, 2 young kids
BD 7sep14
XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1
D paperwork in progress