Sandi ~ thank you for your explanation... I do understand it better now. Yes, I would prefer closure so that I could stop analyzing it to death. Even tho I understood what he was doing and what the overnight was to him, I didn't want to assume. I get your point, although he would not have gone... he still would not give me that inch....
He does not want to be hooked....nope, not yet! Why??? Why do the good stuff but not want the label? I don't get this. I know he wants more (eventually). To him, this is us going slow.
I do want his respect.
Claire ~ Im not sure I understand. I feel I agree for the most part & clarify the truth for the other part. I don't fee/think l I am trying to convince anyone of anything...other than more truth. Please point out where I am doing this? Also where I ask for suggestions, I feel I do agree again... please show me? Please also show me where I am not following with the responses?
I have been clear that I intend on "seeing how things go" a little while longer to "see" and allow him the time/space to follow his lead. Throughout this, I will learn to value myself & not accept the crumbs. I am somewhat comfortable... for now. However, I am WATCHING & learning along the way. I will not accept a non-defined relationship for very long.... just long enough to treat it as a "new" relationship and "see" where it goes, naturally.
Thanks again...
~~~ I could really use some direction/advice on how to BE during the next 24 hours on this overnight stay. I want to enjoy myself but I have been putting pressure on myself because of these last few posts. What is the best way to get my control back? ... did I lose it?
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