When this began, H said he wanted to be friends with me and that he cares for me deeply just not in a romantic way. I have never been the one to initiate contact and he rarely does since moving out. This last week he texted me "goodnight" and I did not respond and then yesterday he texted me "have a good day" and I did not respond. I'm not trying to be mean. I just find it incredibly painful to hear from him and am wondering if I am doing the right thing by not responding to his texts. I am trying to send the message that I do not want to be his friend. I will be friend-LY if I see him but I cannot be his friend. I have asked that he meet D17 and D23 somewhere other than our home when he wants to see them or arrange to visit when I am not home. I just can't see him because it is too painful for me and I do not want to act needy around him. He is having an A and I feel like I am just making it very easy for him to carry on with OW. I am working on myself and making changes but how will H ever see that I am changing? Has anyone else done what I am doing?
Me: 54 H: 58 Married: 29 years Together 33 years H admitted to A: 5/29/14 H moved out :6/15/14 OW lives 4 hours away and "occasionally" stays weekends with H D23 D18
