I have another possibility for what Wolfie is going through: the guilt is killing him. I have had to tell Sam she has to start to forgive herself before we can move forward. Unfortunately she has yet to do so and we are suffering. I just posted on Shiny's thread that Sam and I may need a knock down, drag out fight too.
I am feeling a lot like both Shiny and you, and I am getting angrier.
Shiny shouted the D word in her arguement, may I ask you something? Have you considered it (I am not saying you should!!!! You are doing a great job dbing). The thought has come to my mind and I am unsure what to do with it, especially having two young children. How old are your children?
Anyway, I want to emphasize and empathise that you have a right to feel the way you do and I am proud that you are taking a stronger stand.
