Is it too late?

[123Gwen]

Thanks Wonka and friends. Funny thing is I woke up to a nice text from H asking me to restore service so he could use the phone for work. I ignored it, took a shower and then he called and we had a full conversation. The first in months.

I told him in no uncertain terms that his actions had helped me finally arrive at the anger stage. I told him that the separation agreement needs to be negotiated and signed before the holidays or I would scorch the earth if his avoidance required me to file lawsuits for custody, support and property distribution. I guess I did my first 180. I was angry but my voice was clear. I did not yell but there was a clarity in my voice that was never there before. I also told him to get his own phone by the weekend. I never screamed but it was abundantly clear I was not going to wait in the wings like the good wife. My priorities were taking care of our daughters and getting a life of my own.

I sent him a follow up email that reiterated the list of items that must be addressed. I also stated my intention to file a lawsuit if he did not work to resolve the terms of our separation by Thanksgiving. In retrospect it was too wordy but he probably didn't read it. I sent the email for me and my documentation.

I feel relieved. I stated my needs. I feel in control for the first time in months and no matter what happens I believe the girls and I will be fine.

Definitely a good day on the roller coaster. Have to be thankful for those highs because it can change in a second.