I will unblock the phone tomorrow. I don't know if I am built for this DBusting. I mean what kind of hope is there when you are treated like a piece of trash he left along the side of the road?
I have IC tomorrow. I will wake up and try again.
In the midst of MLC, the MLCer's empathy chip is truly, truly broken. Like a bad C-3PO on the assembly line at the Skywalker Ranch. Please know that I am not trying to justify or defending the painful actions of the MLCer. The reality is that the MLCer is a very, very scared and confused person. To alleviate this horrible inner pain, they seek out external resources to get them to a happy place. Cue the OW/OM.
I had my own OW. During my own MLC, my empathy chip was totally broken. Let me tell you a short story to illustrate this point.
Ms. Wonka and I were away on a family vacation on Martha's Vineyard with her family. During one outing at the beach, I was with a small group at one certain spot while Ms. Wonka and her sister went out to swim in the ocean.
I was busy playing with our young nephew in the sand and had my back to the ocean as we were in a small hill/dune area. Then Ms. Wonka came up to me breathing hard and said, "Wonka, I almost drowned out there!" My response?
"Oh" and I went right back to what I was doing with the nephew. Mind you, I am cringing as I type this for that was SO NOT ME at all. If you saw me pre or post MLC, I'd be all over Ms. Wonka with concern and commiserate over her fear.
Sorry to say that MLCer's empathy chips are broken and their sexual desire for you takes a nose dive. We become numb to the LBS and think that the LBS is the cause of our unhappiness. Otherwise, why else are we so damned unhappy all the time? You, the LBS, are the tangible 'evidence' of our unhappiness...thus we all FLEE.
Didja know that I did contemplate moving out and renting a place by myself? That was how badly I felt the pressure getting to me. Oh and I was a World Champ Smartphone Hogger!!!
Hang in there...you can outlast your H's MLC...if you decide to do so.
