Just had call with DB Coach. Honestly- that was a bit of a downer. She said cases like this where the spouse is so withdrawn and has not stated needs are very tough. There's also almost no opportunity to rebuild an emotional connection because of our lack of contact.
Nothing to do but continue GAL and PMA.
I'm not going to do anything to slow down the divorce - right now he is being amenable and I'm afraid it will turn adversarial.