Ya know--he told me from the start that he worried that he might me too self-centered and selfish to have a long-term relationship--but it wasn't until I understood the behavior surrounding the A that I fully appreciated that! Oh well--que sera, ya know?
I appreciate the insight from the formerly self-centered point of view. The difference between the way we approach things came out pretty quickly in MC.
He explained to the MC that he saw us as two opposing factions--and I couldn't figure out what he was talking about. I don't think in those terms at all. To me, it's about two people trying to work together for the benefit of something that's bigger than either of us individually--being the R.
So, I guess when I make an adjustment or a consescion--I don't think in terms of me giving/him taking--I think in terms of being willing to take care of the R.
