So, my husband called me and told me that our divorce hearing is set for the 24th. This made me panic. He also said that he was feeling depressed about not being there for our son. I encouraged him to tell me how he was feeling and that I understood, but did not pressure him. I did call him and tried to tell him that I have changed for the better whether we stay together or not. He didn't hear me b/c my phone kept going in and out. I told him I would call him when I got home, but thought that I shouldn't, so I just texted me and told him that we shouldn't talk anymore tonight and I will text him on Thursday to set a drop off date.
I think if he wouldn't have dropped the hearing date, I would have handled myself better, but I panicked. That means we only have 10 days together left as husband and wife. I could hear it in his voice that he wasn't happy, so maybe his depression over our son is a step in the right direction.I'm just afraid that if I don't tell him that I'm willing to work it out he'll forget. But then I think that I've all ready told him a thousand times all ready, so he knows.
I went to the nail salon and got some nails and my eyebrows waxed. That made me feel better about myself, and I know it's different from how I normally look, so i expect my husband to take notice. (I mean my family did, so he certainly should). I made some new goals, b/c I guess those were my relationship goals. It's very hard to determine if I should remain silent or say something in the situations sometimes.
Trying to get my 180s in check and do them. Plan on making a list and implementing ASAP. I keep praying, and I know this is working. I just hope it works in time before we split "officially".
...Also,went to the animal shelter and got a puppy for my son and myself. He is very cute. I named him 'Ranger'. My son is going to love him...
OK, If you ever emotionally panic again, tell him you need to excuse yourself until you get your emotions in control. If you want to read up on it, it is called emotional flooding and basically your fight or flight instinct and adreneline shut down your thinking part of your brain.
A divorce hearing is not the same thing as a final papers in most states. In most states even after all sides agree there is up to a 6 month waiting period until the divorce is finalized. I don't know what the law is in your state, but it probably doesn't mean you only have 10 or less days as husband and wife. Even if it is, you can only control what you can control and that is you!
Doing a make-over sounds like a great idea. Way to go. Feel good about you. Confidence and a postitive self-image are really attractive qualities.
Getting a puppy sounds great. Now figure out a way that you and your son can exercise said puppy as a way of all of you bonding and part of your GAL. Maybe even sign up for a dog training course. (By the way, training men isn't that much different than training a dog, a lot of the same rules apply)
It is pretty clear that you are emotionally all over the place, "please come back," calm detachment, I hate him and want to move on. You really do need to work on your emotions and what you want out of life. If you don't know you can't be consistent in your DB'ing.
Good luck and keep reading DB.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
