Ss, one thing glaringly apparent to me was that there was not one moment about what he wanted to give you in that whole long grueling "conversation." I'm sorry, that wasn't a conversation, that was a ransom demand. Or an extortion attempt. Good for you for doing the hard work of staying calm and not giving him any further ammunition.
You may be in for a long haul. but if he's cleaning himself up now then maybe at some point he will realize what a marriage is really made of and will come to work with you, rather than make grossly unfair demands.
The stars are frowning on relationships today, friend, but that's just today. Hugs to you.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
