Well, that's odd, Seattle--because that's the OTHER conclusion I've come to.
He IS quite self-centered and easily gets on a self-pity trip. He does have a lot of difficulty empathizing with me or understanding how his behavior affects me.
There is just no way around this--that is how he is and there just is no sugar-coating it. Do I love him dispite these flaws? Yes, very much. If he didn't have a lot of other great qualities, I wouldn't have been with him all these years.
The problem is, there are still days that I wonder if I can live with it--love or not. These characteristics in him are much of what led to him getting involved with another woman in the first place. If I saw him facing those characteristics head on and wanting to grow--I wouldn't be so scared.
He thinks his POV is all RIGHT and mine is all WRONG regarding the basics of what it takes to rebuild our relationship. He wants a "do-over" and get's pissed that I'm the kind of person who needs to process things.
Ya think you could take a two hour drive up my way and 'splain a few things to the man??? Just--kidding! LOLOL
