Just making an observation. Could it possibly be that Wolfie is preoccupied with himself and his feelings of woe is me and not so focused on how his actions affect you?
Didn't know if he is familiar with I statements and selflessly caring for you, DR principles and so forth. If not, he may just be operating the only way he knows how. If he is shown another way to operate, maaaaybe he would do things differently? If he is already familiar with these principles, he might have forgotten how to apply them as we all do sometimes? Just thoughts. At least he is trying, maybe he makes those statements because he wants to be appreciated for what he does, he feels vulnerable doing them. Not trying to defend his actions, you have every right to feel the way you do.
