If it were me, I would probably tell him, "Thanks for the offer, but I have decided to not tag along on trips with any man who wants to use me in his private times as a tax write off. I find it rather insulting if he can't value me enough to label it what it is, at least to my face. And if this is the case with you.....then you have my answer". But, MM, that's just me and my personality.
BINGO! Me? I would say/do the same thing as Sandi would do if it were her. That said, as I mentioned to you I think that maybe if I change my approach it would help you achieve what I believe is your primary goal (no matter what the cost), which is to get him back.
So......
MM, if you want to feel close to him, if you want him to feel validated. Then go. All you can do IMO, right now is to allow him to dictate all of the shots. That is...unless you prefer to keep playing the game of...what do I do if he does X, what do I say if he does Y.
So why not just go with him. Have a good time. Maybe...just maybe....tomorrow....or next week....or next year....or in 5 years...he will realize what he has (not sure how he will do that, having never "really" lost you but hey that's just me).
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
