Wife in denied but ongoing affair, what to do???

[blndsid]

THANK YOU. It's like I know that I know what to do, but after the roller coaster of the last 10 days I don't even know which way is up.

The first 'go round' last Wednesday was after I went out with an old friend from high school. Part of GAL, I go out at least one night a week after putting kids to bed, just an hour or two. My W knows my usual friends are pretty harmless, so he was different.

However, the day or so before we met up I told her about my friend from HS and how nuts he was in HS. Got expelled at prom, drugs, booze, gun. A real class act. Looking back that might have been a reaction to GAL that made her come to bed that way.

Up to that point I didn't hug, kiss, or say ILY's for a couple weeks. Sure, I'd give a friendly hug or pat on the back to acknowledge her existence, but I was pretty short about it. Avoid being in the same room unless it's the living room to watch kids watch TV.

Back to HS friend. . . now he doesn't even drink, except water with lemon. Apparently he discovered it was toxic to him. Told my wife we went to a bar for 2 drinks. However, we just met at his house to discuss my sitch because his W had an A their first year of marriage, 6 years ago. They're still married, not happily, but luckily no kids. His advice was "Let It Go", referring to the A. Let it go a little more each day. It was working well as part of my denial during the last week too.