Wife in denied but ongoing affair, what to do???

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To review the events of this last week:

Starting with last Wednesday (8 days ago) the W started acting different to me. As mentioned before we had sex that night, followed by the next night with her lying about taking the same flight as OM to her conference, which I knew she was before I asked. Since it had been booked months ago, I allowed myself to believe she lied to avoid an unnecessary issue. They could have ended it but still have to be on the same flight. That was my illogical logic. Same night she said she didn't know how she could prove it was over. Maybe I will put together a list of ways and see if she'll fake her way through that.

Since then she offered to snuggle, even though that's not her thing. This week we started hugging again. I still don't go to hug her, but I will hug back if she approaches. I kiss if she moves to kiss me first. I started to return ILYs when she said it first. Even the "I really do love you" I got last night. Sunday night (3 days ago) neither of us could fall asleep, so she asked if I wanted to 'fool around' as we call it. You know, to help us sleep. Hoping we had turned a corner, and wanting to believe that, I said yes. Good time had by all. Then I cooked dinner Monday night and had it ready when she got home. Last night, after my trust but verify moment, not so much.

This all goes back to my original reason for feeling the need to post on here, how do you know when a W denying an affair has actually ended the affair and is willing to reconcile, without some sort of verification? Obviously any advice is appreciated because I'm just spun around after last week.

I got fooled again because I wanted to believe her change in actions, towards me anyhow. Now I have to take a step back and not accept her advances. Cake eating, dang it.