Trying to stay patient- part 6

[dingo]

The one thing I can tell you that I learned is this: When you are finally able to really let go, you will suddenly find yourself in such a calm place of peace where everything may not be right with the world and where everything may not be the way you envisioned it but where everything is OK. When you get to this spot, you will not want to go back to the chaos and turmoil that you've been living since BD.

I think its very difficult for those of us that internalize and honor our commitments to others to get to that place - I suppose this may be because those commitments have really become a part of who we are and what we believe in. However, when you do, it will be a very liberating experience.

Dingo, this is perfect, every word. Any advice on how to get there?

BY DBING!!!

Seriously, every 'tactic' of DBing is designed solely to get you to that point. Following sandi's rules, GALing, detaching, taking charge of your own life, taking your spouse off the pedestal...its all for you!