Do I walk away from WAW? (1)

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Its really tough. I mean, feasibly she has no realistic options here. She wants to hypothetically move out in 3 weeks but she is asking me for 20 bucks today. Her fantasy is to have a separate household to keep the kids in half the time, and we co-parent in perfect harmony, happily ever after. But the reality is: she cant, financially, physically, emotionally, spiritually. She cant even do it right now, while still in the house.

Ive come to a place where I feel like she needs to really hit bottom to ever sincerely come back to me, but I dont want to "force" her to. Talked with my IC a lot about this, about how I take responsibility for making her face reality, about how it felt "mean of me" not to give her $20 today. So we researched a different response: asking what she needed, bringing it to her. I felt much better about that than just ignoring her text or responding "no, youre on your own now".

Im wondering if simply writing a letter saying "yes, you ought to shoot for Nov 1. im going to carry on doing what I'm doing, standing for this marriage and the stability of our family. You know where to find me." Could this be enough to wake her up?

I have to prepare, however, for the reality that she just cant do it. Unless she just moves onto someones couch.