So, yes, without any sarcasm I definitely had shortcomings and missed things I should have caught. Said things that could be hurtful even if meant jokingly. As I find or realize those things now, I tell her I don't want to start a big discussion about our R, but I wanted to apologize for X, Y, or Z. Usually she says they were no big deal, or knew they were jokes, but I insist on making amends as I find them. I have my 180's and am working them.
I am very far from a perfect father or husband. However, I'd still take my shortcomings over her lies and ongoing affair 99 out of 100 times. Bad attitude, maybe, but that's how I see it. Back to DB.
Me: 37, W: 36 S6, S3 M: 8 T:11 Discovered 1st A: 9/3/14 Began DB: 9/20/14 W "ended" 1st A repeatedly Discovered at least 3 more A's, filed 10/29/14
