Hugs to you. I'm so sorry you have had such a rough past few days.
One thing that helped me was to tell my husband that he didn't need to tell me where he was going or who he was with. That all I really need to know to be happy is A) that he's going out with friends and B) when he expects to be home.
I've trained myself to know that when he says he's "Going out with friends" to respond with.."Ok, have a great time!"
If he tells me he's going to go hang out with a specific friend, by telling me her name, I tend to get all anxious and upset.
So, this way I get to self-soothe, and avoid dwelling on this one girl whom I still don't trust. And I show him that I trust him and don't begrudge him time with his friends.
It's been working really well, and I don't think he feels like he's living in a fishbowl, or asking my permission.
