Trying to stay patient- part 6

[Mozza]

(sorry, I'm still under moderation and my message from yesterday hasn't appeared yet)

I agree with Shakspr: you need this clean break to hope ever fixing this. It will remove many ways in which you are the source of trouble for her. She needs to stop thinking of you as a source of problems. Her own apartment, a fixed schedule with the kids and dogs -- all these things will get out of the way so that she can find peace of mind.

By the way, she said something very important:

I will never rule out the possibility of us getting back together, but right now, at this moment that's not the path we're on....

Don't expect anything from her at this moment: she's completely wrapped in her intention to separate from you. Don't ask for reconciliation: you're not going to get it now. It doesn't mean she won't change her mind later, it means now, she's not there. I'm in a similar situation and I've learned not to ask anything. Be happy she said she doesn't rule out getting back together; it's a good start under the circumstances.