Shall hate be fairer lodged than gentle love?

[Shakspr]

Maybell, rali, thanks for chiming in. I think I got the answers I was looking for - and expected, really. Again, there's no magic bullet. Anyone else feel free to join the convo. Also, check out my previous thread for DB'n post-D, post-sep tips from my coach.

Maybell...I like your word "intentional." It is so hard to wake up hurting, make a conscious decision to love someone who doesn't love you back and act accordingly. I really look at myself in the mirror every morning now, and not just to shave. It reminds me who I am. That there is dignity in standing for marriage when your W wants out. That the pain and grief have value, if only to ourselves. And it reminds me to give those things to God. I can't change them, but he is happy to take them away.