Can I get her back??..

[LoveMyW]

Well 2x4 needed here I think..

Once again I feel I have put my foot in the proverbial.. Things between me and W have been going well the last few days.. Nowhere near R or getting back together, but calm and good.. I went to pick up S6+8 today for their weekend with me and stayed at hers for a while, had a coffee and a really good chat.. As I was leaving, we were both speaking really well, and there was a moment there where I thought something may happen, but didn't move on it and left it at that.. I felt there was a bit of a good tension in the air..

Here is where the 2x4 is needed.. Whether I was mind reading, had the situation completely wrong because of my feelings, or read it right, I made a huge mistake when talking to W after she rang to speak to the kids (her request to talk to me after).. I bought up R & M, and I was wrong to do so.. The ensuing conversation got her annoyed, if not a bit more than that.. It also got her saying about how her feelings hadn't changed to which I said that that was because she didn't want them to as other people have worked through problems way worse than ours, but she just seemed like she couldn't care whether we did or didn't work through it..

I didn't yell or scream, and spoke calm about it, but it was all still a FUBAR moment that should never have happened.. I rushed in too quick on what may (or may not) have been there, and I'm back at square 1 again I guess..

I thought I had detached enough not to care what she does, and for a while I honestly felt that, but now I realise I need to even more.. I'm getting my GAL on don't you worry, but I look at her GAL and it just makes me think "well there is why you don't want to change your feelings".. Mind reading I know, and I've just got to work harder on detaching and my own GAL/180 some more..

2x4 away!!..