Healing or Stuck?

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Yeah I giggled too about the censored words. I don't know why they do that I could figure them out on my own anyway LOL.

Tal,

I know the fight was bad, and that having your H talk about leaving must have really scared you.

I do think tho that it was good that he was able to come to an understanding on what you were saying. The fact that he reiterated what you said to get clarification is a good sign of good communication. Hopefully he will learn to do this more often and before he gets upset.

I think part of that is the guilt. I am sure he still feels guilty and whenever a topic gets approached he goes into defensive mode because he is acutely aware of what he did. It may not help you, but I feel that must play a big part in our Spouse's mind.

The talking in circles I have heard somewhere else. It was brought up in "what women want men to know". Maybe later on if you get a communication time set aside you could get the audio CDs of that book and listen toghter. It helped me to understand more on how and why women communicate like that. It may clarify things for him and allow him to be more patient.

Take care.