just trying to catch up on your situation here. I see a couple lines that I want to quote that are EXACTLY why I'm having issues with detaching...

"It's hard to find the balance between detaching and giving up."

"Problem is that she said at DB I wasn't supportive enough of her through those tough times, but now she doesn't want my support."

makes me feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.

I'm sorry to see the alcoholism. unfortunately, you need to protect your children from this. I'm not sure how exactly as I do not want to give bad advice, but you may want to consult someone that can help you.

my wife was a big partier in college and when we were dating she drank at least once a week. after we got married , she only drank occasionally. once our daughter was born, she wouldn't drink at all...if she did it would be RARELY one glass of wine or something . I would occasionally say "we should get drunk together, it would be fun" she said she had no desire to drink.

now....the past couple months she has went out with friend(s) on several occasions and got pretty wasted. completely different person.

hope things get better for ya. good luck!

me-42
w-33
d-3
together-6
m-4yr
6/1/14-w check out
6/15/14-EA?
8/1/14-mc
9/1/14-IDLY-started DBing
9/15/14-w suggest separation
10/17/14 wife is done
12/13/2014 - wife move out
me file 1/1/15