Actually, the perspectives here are strangely healthy. Makes sense, as darn near all DB'n is counter-intuitive. Why do we continue to show unconditional love to our spouses? We certainly don't love who they have become.
We love who they were, and who we know they can be again - especially if we become more complete versions of ourselves.
I don't see any harm in extending simple kindness to the WAS/MLC. Especially when he/she is in an A. And we all clearly hold love in our hearts. But no need to keep making it so clear to them the stark reality between our feelings and theirs.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20
