I found it so hard to get past any images of revealed infidelity, EA and PA. I took counseling called EMDR after BD. It was expensive but you don't need to do it very long and you can learn the techniques on your own.
Since Mr. Gritty released information in bits and pieces, it was like getting a BD weekly. Each time I would do my eye movements and thought exercises and it helped me survive some rough times.
Tapping helped, too, especially after he left and I was alone to obsess by myself, and I realized I could still see what he was spending some of our money on. Meditation and prayer always. I average about a week or two before I stop feeling shell-shocked.
Recently he disclosed some info that hit me hard, but I think I processed it better with all the practice I've had.
I'm reading a great book, called "Living and Loving After Betrayal." I liked Shirley Glass' work, but her method of infidelity recovery relies so heavily on the WAS being cooperative. Stosny's book is big on DIY recovery.
It's got exercises for those moments when your thoughts overtake you. People talk about thought-stopping, but this is homework that helps you get there.
Hang in there, sister!
M:54, H:55 T:33, M:27 12/13 BD: EA 01/14 BD: PA, H leaves 03/14 H & OW break up 05/14 H says he will file for D 08/14 H initiates D 09/14 H wants to R 12/14 Still bungling our way through R
