Without reading every post, does your wife openly admit to the A? It sounds like it's out in the open, or at least not actively hidden. I hope the thyroid treatment does help. I'm in a similar situation but with no medical reason to blame, except maybe her prozac. That leaves only me to blame. I plan to read through your sitch and see what else is similar. I'm sure it will give me some ideas to help deal with this stuff.
Good luck. God bless.
Me: 37, W: 36 S6, S3 M: 8 T:11 Discovered 1st A: 9/3/14 Began DB: 9/20/14 W "ended" 1st A repeatedly Discovered at least 3 more A's, filed 10/29/14
