just off the phone with a woman from my group.... she suggests sending a message that is clear:

"I've been thinking, spending an overnight with you will provide us BOTH the opportunity to test and see how things go."

or "now that you have cleared things up, I am looking forward to our get away. This will provide us both the opportunity to test & see how things go"

or something along those lines.... suggestions?

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)