Sorry you're here too. Like you'll hear all around here, detach best you can. That's been hard for me, but talked to a friend whose W had an A in their first year. LET IT GO is what he said worked for him. Every ugly thought you have, let it go. Hard to do, but helps to improve sleep and appetite. Snooping is a bad idea too, unless you don't have enough anxiety in your life. My problem is snooping's too easy. Let it go. I say it all day.
Good luck, God bless.
Me: 37, W: 36 S6, S3 M: 8 T:11 Discovered 1st A: 9/3/14 Began DB: 9/20/14 W "ended" 1st A repeatedly Discovered at least 3 more A's, filed 10/29/14
