Sorry to hear your story. My wife didn't leave me or the A after I confronted her. The A continues and she acts like and says nothing is going. Not at all saying this sort of thing is going on with you, but after almost 2 months of constant in my face lying, I'm starting to think it'd be better if she wasn't here. I assume most would disagree, but it wears me thin.
Keep reading, focus on yourself and your kids. Get a life and Detach. So very hard to detach, but important to give space.
Good luck. God bless.
Me: 37, W: 36 S6, S3 M: 8 T:11 Discovered 1st A: 9/3/14 Began DB: 9/20/14 W "ended" 1st A repeatedly Discovered at least 3 more A's, filed 10/29/14