H has called and spoke to our little kids 2x since he left on 9/23 (that's all the effort he has made, it's not as if he's tried and I would not let them talk), he has talked to S8 once (the other time S8 refused to talk to him). And no, he does not check in at all on them. I tried to talk to him about a situation with S8 at school last week but he didn't respond to my text until I was busy the next day and he did not/has not asked about it since. The only thing we have discussed about the kids at all is D4's party. I don't text him to call the kids more regularly (as I am trying minimal contact) and he doesn't try from his end to reach out.

H has been gone nearly 2 years (for work until 8/27/14 BD) and I have found that I can take care of the kids fine on my own. We DID talk about the kids every night before he decided he wanted to D but now he doesn't even pretend to care or make it a topic of conversation as before...

Me- 40 H- 41
S8, D5, S4
M 19 y T 23
Bomb drop 6/2013
H asked for/filed for D 9/2014
22 yo OW discovered 9/19/14 they're engaged and living together