I guess then this going dark is right for me right now because I find it is easier for me. Do I block my FB posts too? I won't unfriend him but should I go dark online? I was surprised he even checks FB. It kind of makes me feel uncomfortable so I would hide my posts from him for me. We've lived in many states so I use FB to keep up with friends and only for positive posts. Nothing personal about the M.
Honestly ... I had to pretty much nuke FB (for my own sake), W un-friended me but I could see her posts (She was public on the profile), OM would "like" them and comment on some and I am screaming at the screen .. drove me nuts. I avoided it for my own sanity ... and reading your sitch ... I would not allow him to see what I was doing .. nor the kids ... I would try to avoid that too. I realize you like to stay in touch .. maybe just block him, not sure .. the FB thing was never really addressed in the books from what I recall and its an interesting dynamic in all this. I can see how at points it might be good to show 180's PMA and Detaching ..... but in a way its not "Dark" ... WAS knows what you are doing and it removes the mystery angle that does seem so spark some changes. Maybe a Vet can chime in on this topic... I am just rambling here... lol
