Wondering if anyone here has any experience with/knowledge of sex addiction. Not sure what to think about this potential diagnosis... Reading the descriptions, a lot of it certainly seems to describe my W. The double life, the rationalization and manipulation and sense of entitlement particularly.
W does seem genuinely upset/disgusted/remorseful/guilty. She said me busting her is the first time she has ever had to confront who she is and what she's done, and it's been earth-shattering for her. I'm afraid that no matter how genuine she is, if this is truly sex addiction (which seems a bit of a misnomer for her, because it seems less about the sex than the attention), than as with any addiction I may be in for more lying/manipulation/covering up even if we stay together and work on this both in IC and in MC. Or that this is just how W is wired sexually, and that sex in a committed relationship will never be able to satisfy the urge to act out sexually... that the taboo of cheating and illicit sex is just what gets her off... That sex in the context of marriage and kids and bills and life stress will never compare with the fantasy bubble of "hooking up".
Just don't know where to go from here yet.
H: 43 W: 37 M: 11 years T: 12 years S: 11 D: 8 ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14 MC started: 9/22/14 Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14 Piecing: 10/20/14
