So true trying to rationalize the irrational. In another time my husband would have been mortified to see someone act like this. He would not want his daughters to see a man treat his wife with such disrespect. I have to quit thinking why and accept what is our new reality.
Is going dark though a good thing? I mean the dog had to go to the vet and the roof is leaking. I don't bother telling him but in the end am I just enabling? I just am tired of being ignored so I went dark for me but am I taking the easy route? It all feels hard and confusing.
Going dark is tough, and honestly I suck at it. It does make things different and you will see results. It makes the WAS think ... What is she/he doing? something isnt right .. it confuses them. As you read more you will have 3 things pounded into your head, they help YOU .. not the WAS, the OP, the M or the A .. its not about anything but YOU.
GAl 180 PMA ... for now ... your focus should be on you, your fam. and these 3 things ... its brutal .. not gonna lie .. but you will see results and these things will give you the strength you need if you want to be on this roller coaster
