Moving towards mediation, need to stop limbo

[shodan]

Agree on all fronts. The only path is to detach. I want to have patience and not pull the trigger on a D because perhaps waiting for a bit would have gotten her to stopping the A on her own.

What is annoying is that the A is the obstacle to success, although my W has said that she has been unhappy for years and her relationship with the OM (again, not an affair in her mind, they are just friends) has nothing to do with it. I of course know it is impacting us and our future.

I just need to back off and stop talking about it. Stop thinking about it.