Yeah .. I was in that same pickle ...W told me she things like .. I am not sure this is the relationship I want, I dont want to hurt you but I don't feel about you that way, bla bla bla ..... I simply replied .. well ofcourse you don't, you are pouring all those feelings into another man. I later told her how disrespectful it was .. 24 years is not a fluke nor an accident. I took my portion of the blame but also shot a few truth darts of my own. So I completely agree, she will not feel anything until option "B" has ran its course, unfortunately none of us truly wants to stand aside and wait for that.
I heard a sermon by a pastor who said Love is a choice, in fact he claimed he could stick any 2 people together and if they decided to love each other it would work ... its when resentmet creeps in and we decide not to love, that starts to be replace with resentment. The history my wife and I created .. not all wonderful, but not all horrible either means something, the A they are in ... was founded on lies, untruths, and deceptive tactics. That's not a solid foundation....it will crumble .. question is .. WHEN.
